Why It Is Wrong To Pay For Sex

I have never given any woman money because I wanted to have sex with her or because I successfully had sex with her.

This may be a very unpopular opinion, but it is true.

I am not obligated to give you my money merely because I am asking you out and desire intimacy between us.

The one time I attempted to do this in Owerri, I fell violently ill and had to beg the lady to just leave with the money and not expect any action.

I wish more people understood that sex isn’t an essential necessity for humans.

Sex is a libidinal need.

Sex is not an essential/survival need.

You can live your full lifespan on earth as a human without sex and you will be fine.

But money?

Money is an essential need!

Especially in today’s modern world.

You cannot survive without money.

Food, shelter, clothing, security, and medical care aren’t possible without money.

This is why I do not consider money and sex worthy to be placed on the same pedestal of exchange and transaction.

It isn’t balanced to equate a libidinal need to an essential/survival need in terms of exchange and barter currency.

Except you are dealing with a commercial sex worker who uses their skills in sex to satisfy the public and earn a living.

A man should give a woman money because he genuinely loves, cares for her, and wishes her well.

A man should not give a woman money simply because she gave him an orgasm.

Exceptions can be made, of course, in the case of a wife whom it is your duty to provide for.

A sensible man does not give his wife money because she gives him sex styles, but because he loves her and swore an oath to do so till death separates them both.

This is also the case for a woman who bears your child for you.

Naturally, this instance is non-negotiable as well because you owe that woman your world because she risked her life to give you a child.

When I see men maltreating or neglecting women who gave them children, I shake my head because these men do not know the misfortune they are attracting to themselves from the universe.

But sex in itself being the sole reason you give a woman money?

No.

It’s even demeaning and undignified to suggest this to an emancipated and independent woman.

I mean sex for money.

Sex is too basic these days.

Way, way too basic.

Plus modern science and technology have even created alternatives for limitless sexual gratification not limited to masturbation.

Someone may say that not having sex at a certain age may predispose a man to prostate disease.

No.

However a man chooses to establish ejaculations from time to time and stay healthy is entirely up to him.

With the necessary supplements, lifestyle, and diet, a man can stay off sex till he’s 90 and no health condition will come to him.

Personally, if I meet a woman I like and we bond, I grow empathy for her needs and her problems begin to affect me as well.

It will be hard for me to see her struggle with a financial problem and not want to support her in my own small way.

This is not me supporting her because I am obligated to do so simply because our genitals are doing meet and greet.

This is me supporting her because I care for her and am drawn to her soul beyond her vagina, buttock muscles, and mammary tendons.

Happy Sunday, umu nnem.

An Anonymous Nairander wrote.